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Opinion: LGBT community more accepted than before, but more work needs to be done
Pride celebrations have added meaning this year thanks to growing acceptance of the community, David M. Hall says.
June 7th, 2012
03:56 PM ET

Opinion: LGBT community more accepted than before, but more work needs to be done

Editors Note: David M. Hall is the author of “Allies at Work: Creating a Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Inclusive Work Environment.” He teaches courses on LGBT issues and bullying prevention, and tweets @drdavidmhall.

By David M. Hall, Special to CNN

(CNN) Every June, the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community celebrates pride month.

But this year marks a turning point from previous celebrations as American attitudes are changing, and more gays and lesbians are supported and included in our society.

The LGBT community feels a greater sense of belonging today more than ever before thanks to a number of laws, policies and procedures changing the national discourse.

For the first time, a sitting president has said he supports same-sex marriage, followed by a number of high-profile organizations and figures.

A year ago, same-sex marriage was permitted in five states and in the District of Columbia.

The Defense of Marriage Act, which defined marriage solely between a man and a woman, was federal law.

A year later, New York, Maryland and Washington have passed laws allowing same-sex marriage, and a federal appeals court has struck down key parts of DOMA.

This decision was supported by some of America’s Fortune 500 companies, including Starbucks, Nike and Xerox. They, along with other businesses, signed a brief that stated this act negatively affected their business.

That is something I hear with some of the senior leaders of corporate clients I consult: Marriage inequality is bad for business.

For example, if a company wants to recruit someone who is moving from a state that allows same-sex marriage to a state that does not, the possibility of a legal dissolution of a marriage becomes a consideration for a candidate.

This year, 190 companies received a perfect LGBT inclusion rating from the Human Rights Campaign. This survey evaluates nondiscrimination policies, benefits and other criteria.

Edie Egwuonwu, a diversity manager for a Fortune 500 company, recognized this change in her own company. “More and more in a corporate environment what is going in the closet is intolerance,” she said.

Plus, in some of the most conservative institutions, there have been changes.

In the military, "don’t ask, don’t tell," a rule that did not allow gay men, lesbians and bisexuals to serve openly, is no longer policy.

In communities of faith, bridges are being built.

Tony Perkins, a conservative Christian leader, agreed to have dinner at the home of a lesbian couple, and Mormon allies marched in this year’s Gay Pride parade in Utah, promising to listen.

These efforts are a beginning, just as there has been significant attention devoted to lesbian, gay and bisexual issues.

But more and more, inclusion of transgender individuals, such as Jenna Talackova, the contestant allowed to participate in the Miss Universe Canada pageant, are being included in discussion.

The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission now includes gender identity as a protected status.

While these milestones are celebrated, there is still critical and serious work ahead.

Marriage for same-sex couples is denied in 42 states.

Anti-LGBT bullying is a staple of the lives of many children, and tragic suicides, like that of Tyler Clemente, continue to occur.

In my profession, I see both acceptance and rejection.

In a high school class, I met a student who came out in middle school and feels that he finds wide acceptance.

The next week I met a lesbian from a neighboring district who gets harassed, not just in school but also at the supermarket and mall.

I train employees out at work who have marriage or domestic partner rights. They face the same legal struggles with divorce and separation with which married, heterosexual couples contend. At another workplace in the same city, there is a gay public employee who faced hate crimes from his co-workers.

It is not uncommon to hear heterosexual, male teens express support for equal rights for lesbians, gays and bisexuals but follow it with a threat of violence for “guys who pretend to be chicks.”

In America today, we can have two individuals from the same city who are the same age but have entirely opposite experiences: One experiences acceptance and the other rejection.

While the tide is indeed turning, there is more that needs to be done.

We must speak up when someone makes a joke about those who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender.

We need to stand for equality in our workplaces, schools and communities, advocating for laws, policies and procedures that allow all LGBT individuals to experience the dignity of inclusion.

We have a responsibility to act.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of David M. Hall.

soundoff (12 Responses)
  1. Jake

    What a frail, fragmented society we are becoming.

    June 15, 2012 at 1:10 pm | Report abuse |
  2. RSM

    Gay & Lesbian relationships are not natural. They are personal choices. No problem for me. I just see a person. Not here to judge. BUT! Do not judge me either!

    June 15, 2012 at 9:55 am | Report abuse |
  3. Brooke

    Oh Please! Forcing our agenda, give me a break!!! You sound like a baby! Grow up and get over it!

    June 8, 2012 at 1:52 pm | Report abuse |
  4. Rick Howe

    These nasty comments remind me of an article I read a few weeks ago. It appears that the persons who attack GLBT individuals with the greatest vigor are those most fearful of being LGBT.

    Good piece David, an up to the moment report including the comments that prove how far there is yet to go.

    June 8, 2012 at 8:23 am | Report abuse |
    • Concerned

      Nope, no fear at all. It's just plain wrong and unnatural. It is not of God. Only a Man and a Woman is because this is how God our Creator designed human relationships to be.

      June 15, 2012 at 10:45 am | Report abuse |
  5. Kathy

    Well said, David! My life is enriched by people who are different than me.

    June 8, 2012 at 12:12 am | Report abuse |
  6. ED0827

    I disagree. When women were treated as property instead of people, denied equal rights and essentially were less important than cattle, were they whining? During the civil rights movement, were the blacks whining when they were harassed, assulted and killed due to the color of their skin? If you answered no, then how is this different? Over 200 years later, all men are still not equal. I am embarassed to live in a society where ignorant people like you are allowed to spout your mindless rhetoric. But you have that right. Just like you have the right not to listen to anything said or written about the LGB&T community.

    June 7, 2012 at 9:56 pm | Report abuse |
  7. Mike

    I agree. It's always their bloody issues and how terrible it is to be them. Well, if they don't like it they can move far away from America. The less selfish humans in america the better.

    June 7, 2012 at 6:59 pm | Report abuse |
    • Mike points the way for the Mass GOP Exodus of America

      He and I agree: "The less selfish humans in america the better."

      Republicans plan to leave the United States by tomorrow afternoon.

      June 15, 2012 at 11:03 am | Report abuse |
  8. Mike

    So, when will being straight become a crime? And what of all the straight kids who commit suicide? What you think suicide is only a LGBT issue?

    Btw, not to burst their rainbow bubble, but... You need people of the opposite gender to make babies, same sex love is not natural at all in humans. WE ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO MAKE LOVE TO THE SAME GENDER.

    June 7, 2012 at 6:58 pm | Report abuse |
    • sam stone

      by what authority do you claim to know what is "natural"?

      June 12, 2012 at 12:36 pm | Report abuse |
    • pattysboi

      My WIFE and I (we are a very happy lesbian FAMILY) don't choose to have kids. I suggest that you grow UP and get a life. You need one.

      June 13, 2012 at 6:45 pm | Report abuse |