January 5th, 2012
10:24 AM ET

Catholic program asks gay and lesbian parishioners to abstain from sex

A new program of the Catholic church in Hartford, Connecticut, minsters to lesbian and gay parishioners. It's not about their sexual orientation Archdiocese of Hartford Deacon Robert Pallotti told CNN affiliate WFSB, "it's how they act on it sexually."

The programs asks people with same-sex attractions to abstain from having sex. Pallotti said it's a support system that could help people avoid discrimination, and increase support from friends and family.

But the director of the Hartford Gay & Lesbian Health Collective says the program is offensive.

soundoff (70 Responses)
  1. Lew

    So what. at least they show some common sense...Because breaking someone else's butt is not healthy...

    January 14, 2012 at 12:25 am | Report abuse |
  2. Mike P

    The Catholic position on gay relations is no different from what any Bible-believing church's position should be. The only relations of which the Bible approves are relations within marriage, marriage being defined as being between 1 man and 1 woman only.

    January 10, 2012 at 6:53 pm | Report abuse |
  3. m

    Why not, it's not like they will procreate.

    January 6, 2012 at 1:13 am | Report abuse |
  4. castyourvote2012

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    January 6, 2012 at 12:11 am | Report abuse |
    • will

      What's this to do with Ron Paul? You are losing support for Paul by posting irrelevant comments.

      January 26, 2012 at 12:10 am | Report abuse |
  5. mickey1313

    why would anyone belong to a faith that hates them? Those who choose to practice a diferent lifestile should not stay in a church that condems them. This is a prooveing issue, it proves that cathlocs are bigoted fools.

    January 5, 2012 at 10:54 pm | Report abuse |
  6. usa8888

    Anyone who is dumb enough to be a Catholic should what the archdiocese says....

    January 5, 2012 at 10:51 pm | Report abuse |
    • will

      Dumb? Are you a bigot?

      January 26, 2012 at 12:10 am | Report abuse |
  7. Joshua Lopez

    The Catholic Clergy including the Brotherhood, Convents & Missionary Schools have a rich history of torturing, molesting and raping children and it has been happening Since time in memorial. What has Vatican done about it?!

    January 5, 2012 at 9:22 pm | Report abuse |
  8. Joshua Lopez

    What about Priest molesting and raping Alterboys and children? And Vatican covers it up big time by spending Hundred of Millions in out of court settlements!

    January 5, 2012 at 9:20 pm | Report abuse |
    • John

      Of course they would settle out of court. Think from a business perspective if an employee did something illegal in your organization would you take it to a jury trial in civil court. If you would you are a terrible business manager. You settle out of court to mitigate exposure (which did not work with the catholic church) and hopefully leave without paying everything from your coffers. As far as covering it up unless your attorney in not the brightest crayon in the box you make the victim sign a confidentiality agreement. This is done so that the business can save face and get out of media hot water. This did not work for the Catholic church and the media took a hold of these cases and ran them through the cycle until every person in the world with a twenty four seven news coverage heard about it. The church did not cover up anything they mitigated exposure to only those it concerned. If your child was molested would you want the media poking and prodding around to find the story or would you rather handle the matter behind closed doors? (When I say that I do not mean put under the rug I mean have a settlement and ensure the child is taken care of mentally and physically.)

      January 5, 2012 at 10:10 pm | Report abuse |
      • mickey1313

        but they are not a company, and should not be alowed to hide the fact that they prodice rapeists.

        January 5, 2012 at 10:57 pm | Report abuse |
      • John

        They are a company they are the worlds largest non profit organization with a clear line of who is in charge and how money is distributed around the world. In order for a large organization to be successful you need to run it like a company. The church has goals and missions like that of any other non profit organization. I assume you meant "produce rapists" and again I ask if you believe the catholic church embraces the idea of molesting children? The simple answer to that is no look at the facts the are over 400,000 priests in the world and only about 200 have been accused and or convicted of molestation and or rape. That is a percent of 0.03 much much less than other professions. The only reason people are upset about it is because when ever something happens in the catholic church the media jumps on it like a hungry wolf. You do not hear about the other 286 reported cases of child molestation by protestant leaders in the U.S. alone. The media holds the catholic church on a higher pedestal and cannot wait to knock them down.

        January 6, 2012 at 12:21 pm | Report abuse |
  9. Fr33th1nk3r

    Reading about this, Rick Santorum probably got his first ever erection....

    January 5, 2012 at 9:20 pm | Report abuse |
    • will

      Do you think that's funny? Not!

      January 26, 2012 at 12:11 am | Report abuse |
  10. Joshua Lopez

    The People Of The Church Bleed Of Ignorance & They Use Religion As A Passport To Spread Hatred, Fear & Discrimination. No Difference from Islam.

    January 5, 2012 at 9:18 pm | Report abuse |
  11. hello

    the catholic ..the holy cr0tch watchers.


    Caesar's Messiah

    January 5, 2012 at 8:35 pm | Report abuse |
    • will

      Religious bigot!

      January 26, 2012 at 12:07 am | Report abuse |
  12. hello

    I think before the any catholic church tells anyone what to do concerning their zex lives..
    they need to FOCUS on what the priests have done and are still doing to the children of
    Don' through stones when you live in a glass church.

    January 5, 2012 at 8:25 pm | Report abuse |
    • Wow

      The percentage of priests doing what you are suggesting to children is actually lower in proportion to many other professions. Namely teachers and doctors.

      January 5, 2012 at 9:07 pm | Report abuse |
      • mickey1313

        That does not matter. They profess that they are holy, and inspired by the devine, thus they are lieing or god is in fact a pedarast.

        January 5, 2012 at 10:58 pm | Report abuse |
  13. Paul Willson

    This is stupid, been tried before and doesn't work.

    January 5, 2012 at 8:06 pm | Report abuse |
  14. Guen

    What would Jesus do? Jesus preached love. Many of these comments do not reflect our collective responsibility to uphold the teachings of Jesus. I am Catholic and my focus is in prayer and love for all. I would rather know that gay people are participating in loving acts than in other atrocities that happen within our church walls.

    January 5, 2012 at 7:15 pm | Report abuse |
    • hello

      how about reading some very good information on your religion.
      Tells you all about what Jesus really did and said...
      Caesar's Messiah..

      January 5, 2012 at 8:22 pm | Report abuse |
  15. marita


    January 5, 2012 at 7:09 pm | Report abuse |
  16. marylin

    I have to agree with just me. I really hope that those who do not support the LGBT community do not have kids that are LGBT. Your hatred for others, that are not doing anything to you to deserve this, will come back to bite you. Karma hurts. And the Catholic church has made a lot of choices I don't agree with. I just feel like its sad, this will even happen.

    January 5, 2012 at 7:04 pm | Report abuse |
  17. twiddly

    I can just see Rick Santorum frothing over this.

    January 5, 2012 at 7:03 pm | Report abuse |
  18. Debbie

    Why not, it works for the priests!

    January 5, 2012 at 6:59 pm | Report abuse |
  19. G D

    Like asking that changes anything relevant to the core issue. Either a church accepts GLBT as people worthy of salvation, or they do not. A person then has a right and responsibility to decide if that church is on moral ground, or simply bigoted and insensitive to some of their flock. To me, the Catholic church has long ago lost its moral compass, allowing/ignoring priests molesting children, not allowing priest to marry, etc.

    January 5, 2012 at 5:29 pm | Report abuse |
    • John

      Although there have been issues with the molestation of children the not allowing priests to marry is actually something that is a good idea. A priest's job is the be a leader of the parishioners of the church, this could mean going to hospitals at three am to in order to give last rights and console grieving families. The priest is to be available whenever the bishop calls him and move when the bishops sends him to. There is a massive priest shortage in this country and in many places the priest moves around after so many years in a parish in order to ensure that the area is covered somewhat to the needs of the people. With that in mind it would seem impossible to preform all these duties and support a wife and possibly children. A priest could not stay home because his wife is sick when the bishop calls him. If one wishes to serve the church and be married he can always be a deacon.

      January 5, 2012 at 5:37 pm | Report abuse |
      • hello

        the catholic religion is a lie.. a joke.... created by the Romans....
        Caesar's Messiah..

        January 5, 2012 at 8:33 pm | Report abuse |
      • HCC

        I am Episcopalian and my priests are married. They have to go to the hospital at 3:00 am sometimes and that's part of the job. My husband is in IT and has to work at 3:00 am also (that's when the systems are off-line). Should he not be married? That is a weak argument.

        I understand what you are saying about having to move with little notice. That is true and it's one of the reasons they are not allowed to marry although the Vatican will never admit that. There is a priest shortage so it seems logical to not allow them to marry so that they can be moved about like chess pieces; however this is counterproductive. If they are allowed to marry the chances are good that more people (men and women, but that's a completely different discussion) would follow their calling. More priests alleviates a shortage thereby reducing the need to move someone on such short notice.

        On topic – we are made in His image. The Trinity is a relationship. They are in perfect relationship with each other and we were made to live in relationship as well. To ask people to not live in the relationship that they were born for is not walking in line with the Gospel. Neither is not allowing priests to marry. Very un-Biblical.

        January 5, 2012 at 9:22 pm | Report abuse |
      • John

        The priest is married to the church that is who he devotes his time and energy to. If your husband did not go into work at 3 am then the systems would not get worked on. If a priest does not go to a hospital to provide last rights or console a family in a time of need what is the point of having the priest. This is not a job for the men who choose the vocation of the church it is a lifestyle. They are sacrificing having a marriage on earth to emulate the marriage of God and his church.

        January 5, 2012 at 9:41 pm | Report abuse |
  20. Mel

    If you don't agree with the teaching of the Catholic church, don't become a member. It's as simple as that.

    January 5, 2012 at 4:47 pm | Report abuse |
    • Be nice.

      So you're saying you hate gay people... sorry but you're outnumbered. By a lot.

      January 5, 2012 at 8:28 pm | Report abuse |
      • will

        Are you a religious bigot?

        January 26, 2012 at 12:09 am | Report abuse |
  21. AMERICA 1st

    Males that like males, females that like females should be spayed or neutered and be forced to wear a pink swastika tattoo over their eyeballs. Males and females that get themselves remanufactured in an operating room, same thing with the pink swastika!

    January 5, 2012 at 4:39 pm | Report abuse |
    • Just me

      I really hope you don't have an LGBT child one day. I would hate to hear of the torture you would put them through. It is already bad enough that you hate LGBT people like me, but to advocate something as idiotic as this is just ridiculous. Keep your hate to yourself.

      January 5, 2012 at 5:37 pm | Report abuse |
    • BobsterSD

      I am confused by your name "AMERICA 1st" when you are more like Nazi Germany.

      January 5, 2012 at 6:25 pm | Report abuse |
    • Guen

      Preach love for others not hatred. Please.

      January 5, 2012 at 7:17 pm | Report abuse |
    • mickey1313

      I wish I could meet you, so I I could give you a dose of the hate that you spew, christians are filthy of mind, and if there is a god, they will not get into his kingdom.

      January 5, 2012 at 11:03 pm | Report abuse |
  22. John

    I frankly am distraught at the comments people leave on this thread. Does the catholic church have problems, yes but with any large organization there will be problems. The catholic church provides faith services to over one billion people around the world there is bound to be problems. Lets not forget that there is childhood molestation in other religious sects. The associated press reported that there are around 260 cases of abuse filed against non catholic clergy. Instead of blaming the church as a whole, I.E. The catholic church is full of pedophiles, lets go the the issue at hand. There are some people who have been placed in a great deal of power and do not know how to control their urges. Does this make the catholic church bad as a whole, by no means it rather shows that there is a priest who cannot handle the responsibility of the power he has.

    January 5, 2012 at 4:32 pm | Report abuse |
    • CarolFL

      spoken like a man... tell that to the kids who had to endure it all.

      January 5, 2012 at 5:04 pm | Report abuse |
      • John

        Were there transgressions that permanently affected a child. Yes, the church issued an apology and even paid punitive damages. The priest was removed from the parish and told he can never work around children. What more can be done? How about a blanket statement that all priests in the world can never work with children ever. What about the priest who protected children from abusive parents? Priests as a whole do amazing things to serve the people of earth... There are however a few that do terrible things and they are punished. Keep in mind that even though this is a group that services the faith of people there are still politics within the walls. Do you really think that Politics doe snot effect a large organization?

        January 5, 2012 at 5:10 pm | Report abuse |
      • Southington Library Reference Dept.

        Oh Please, the Church spent years moving these priests around to avoid trouble. It didn't give a whit about those kids. They finally only took action when they couldn't hide it any longer. Give me a break!

        January 5, 2012 at 8:45 pm | Report abuse |
      • will

        Did you really read the post and then say that? You must be really dense.

        January 26, 2012 at 12:15 am | Report abuse |
    • Art

      Yes, because if you agree with the methods of dealing with the problem you are part of the problem. They should be treated as regular citizens when they commit such a crimes of molesting children.

      January 5, 2012 at 7:47 pm | Report abuse |
      • Kris

        Amen...my sentiments exactly.

        January 5, 2012 at 11:54 pm | Report abuse |
    • John

      Remember I said that there are politics in the Church just like any other large organization. They might have bounced around priests but the underlying fact of the matter is that what happened happend and the church is attempting to move forward. People however, continue to bring up issues from the past and never trust the church as a whole because of a select group that did not follow the way the Vatican wanted priest to act. Honestly does anyone think the catholic church endorses the molestation of children. Do you think they talk about it to each other over coffee like it is a normal way of life. If you do you have more issues than I care to address. Why should over 400,000 priests be called pedophiles when maybe one to two hundred have done something wrong.

      January 5, 2012 at 9:56 pm | Report abuse |
    • mickey1313

      all thiests are evil, and true humans, with the sense to listen to reason not superstision need to be diligant in stoping the theocratic fools from trampleing over others.

      January 5, 2012 at 11:05 pm | Report abuse |
      • will

        Your right. If we listened to them we would stop killing unborn human beings. How awful that would be!

        January 26, 2012 at 12:16 am | Report abuse |
  23. Josef

    that is like taking advice from the wolf.... they had better start with all Catholic priests....

    January 5, 2012 at 4:15 pm | Report abuse |
  24. George

    I don't know about you but this make3s me wanna light some frankinsence and eat pressed wafer bread.

    January 5, 2012 at 3:12 pm | Report abuse |
    • will

      Let's make fun of the religion of others! Hitler had fun doing that!

      January 26, 2012 at 12:12 am | Report abuse |
  25. ben


    January 5, 2012 at 3:08 pm | Report abuse |
  26. Alex

    This request has worked so well for the priests in the catholic church, that they are expanding to the parishioners.

    January 5, 2012 at 2:57 pm | Report abuse |
  27. Leo (Ex-Catholic)

    The solution is simple: Just stop listening to the Catholic Church. Just look at their collective behavior! They have NO claim to moral authority. They're really quite irrelevant. Stop giving them power – stop listening to them. Don't let them dictate your life.

    January 5, 2012 at 2:39 pm | Report abuse |
    • will

      Why you are at it, why not say don't let God dictate your life. Make the killing of unborn humans legal and common place. Wait! That's already so.

      January 26, 2012 at 12:19 am | Report abuse |
  28. CarolFL

    that kind of thinking goes along with all the other stupid stuff the Catholic Church does.

    January 5, 2012 at 2:25 pm | Report abuse |
    • will

      And the even more stupid stuff the Catholic haters do!

      January 26, 2012 at 12:17 am | Report abuse |
  29. huckleberry

    Don't forget that this is also the official policy of the SALVATION ARMY (just take a look at their site), which is why I no longer donate to that organization.

    January 5, 2012 at 1:50 pm | Report abuse |
  30. MarkinFL

    You might as well ask the priests to stop having se.x. That would be even less likely though.

    January 5, 2012 at 1:07 pm | Report abuse |
  31. Dennis

    Oh, that's a classic! Way to go, Catholic church. The hypocripsy never fails to amaze me.

    January 5, 2012 at 12:58 pm | Report abuse |
  32. Tensai 13

    That seems fair and the Gay and Lesbian alliance are asking the Catholic priests to abstain from pedophilia.

    January 5, 2012 at 12:37 pm | Report abuse |
    • will

      You are so clever!

      January 26, 2012 at 12:13 am | Report abuse |
  33. Joe

    It is discriminatory. Considering how archaic the Catholic principlesare, their tolerance for change, and the speed at which they make these changes, it is still a step in the right direction. At the least, the glbt communities are being recognized and accepted, albeit with restriction but accepted in certain ways.

    If it were me in the situation, I would take my donations to another church/teaching. For a group whose original followers were the outcasts of society, their acceptance has certainly done a 180.

    January 5, 2012 at 12:15 pm | Report abuse |
  34. duckforcover

    Maybe priests should try it!

    January 5, 2012 at 12:15 pm | Report abuse |
    • Dave North

      Yeh. Like keep your dirty hands off of children.

      January 5, 2012 at 12:18 pm | Report abuse |
      • David

        Let's not forget that most pedophiles are straight people.

        January 5, 2012 at 1:30 pm | Report abuse |
    • CarolFL

      ... and lets keep giving to their retirement funds so they can keep paying out to those kids they molested in the past.

      January 5, 2012 at 2:27 pm | Report abuse |